fall in love with me.”
So you’re moving to a new school/college/university, or you’re simply going to start a new academic year. You have a new class mate and you have a thing for this one specific person. You feel like you could get along with this person really well, and you feel curious about this person. It doesn’t take you that long to realize that you have a crush on this person. Thus, you want to get to know this person more but it seems like he/she doesn’t pay attention to you. The question is, how could you get his/her attention when this person seems so far away from you? Here are my 5 lists on how to get your crush attention.
Make sure he/she knows who you are
The first thing you have to do is to make sure that he/she does actually know who you are. It doesn’t mean you have to be friends with this person, but at least he/she has to know you. May be they know you simply because they see you often, or may be they know you because you’re friend with their friends. In this step, you don’t need to communicate, but this person has to – at least – know your name and who you are.
“Knowing a person is like music, what attracts us to them is their melody, and as we get to know who they are, we learn their lyrics.”
Once your crush already knows you, the next thing you have to do is to get his/her attention by not talking to him/her. The best way to do this is with eye contact. Give him/her a look once or twice and if this person looks back at you, just look around and pretend like you didn’t notice. Don’t make an eye contact more than 5 seconds. Remember that 2 seconds is enough. You don’t want him/her to think that you are a creep that starring at someone all the time or probably even worst, a stalker.
“Eye contact is how souls catch on fire.”
Dress up well and be confident
This might sound a bit cheeky but it’s important to dress up well and be confident.
Let’s be honest, we get attracted to someone that is attractive. The question is, how can we be attracted to someone if they don’t know us? The answer is to take care of your self and dress up well. Most people like someone who could take care of themselves, because if they could take care of themselves, they could take care of other things. If someone can’t even take care of him/herself, how could we get the impression that this person is worth having? When you take care of yourself, you will feel good about yourself and your confidence will come along with it. Remember that confidence is the strongest attraction.
“The secret of attraction is to love yourself.”
Start a conversation
This is the hardest step to do. Yes, you have to talk to your crush, at least once. Find the right moment to talk. If you have a common friend then this would be easier. You could come along with your friend when he/she talks to your crush and you could just join the conversation. However, if you don’t have common friends then you could start with giving him/her a smile. Whenever you seen them around just smile at them. If he/she already knows you, then you could say “Hey”. When you did that you already get his/her attentions without even realizing.
“A simple ‘hello’ could lead to a million things.”
Don’t let him/her know that you have a crush on them
Keep the mystery alive. Don’t tell everyone that you have a crush on this person. Don’t let them know that you have a crush on them. Don’t chase your crush. Remember, anything we chase will run away. You want your crush to value you as someone that is worth having. If you throw yourself that easily to someone barely know, how could they see you as someone that is worth it? I’m not saying that you’re not allowed to express your feelings to your crush but wait until the right time. If at this point you barely talk to each other, or even barely knows each other – there is no point to let them know that you have feelings for them. Wait and see. If your crush seems into you, then it’s time for you to make a move. But if he/she is not that into you, then it’s time to find a new crush!
“In a world where everyone is over exposed, the coolest thing you can do is maintain your mystery.”
Remember that this is only to get your crush attention, not to approach him/her. Good luck!
“A simple ‘hello’ can change your mood for the entire day.”