“The problem was, she wanted to be loved so badly that she couldn’t tell it wasn’t love.”
– Leo Christopher –
Having an abusive relationship is one of the worst nightmare people ever have. It’s definitely not healthy and constantly torturing you. The worst part is, you can’t even stop it. There is something that makes you still stay in the relationship. Whether it’s because you love the person too much, or you are afraid of leaving, or you simply don’t know what to do. Whatever the reason is, this situation is definitely not right and deep down your heart, you know it. It has to end and you’re the only person who could end this. This is the five ways to get out of an abusive relationship, but remember that you’re the one in charge and the only person who could end it.
Go out of the city alone
You have to go out of the city alone to clear your mind. The reason to go alone is that you need time to yourself. When you’re alone you could thing by yourself without interference from the outside. Thus, you could be totally honest with yourself. It might be a bit hard at first, but once you’ve done it you will feel much better. This is a good way to remind yourself that you have to love yourself first before you love anyone else. Because what happens when you are in an abusive relationship is that you forget to love yourself. Once you realized how much you love yourself, you will start to see that something isn’t right in the relationship.
Think about who you are before you met this person
Try to think about who you really are. Yourself before you met this person. See how much you have changed after you met this person. Were you happier before you are in this relationship? If yes then why are you still here? Why are you still in this relationship when you know for a fact that you could do better without this. You only live once and let’s make the best of it. Staying in this relationship is just a waste of time, and even worst, it’s killing you slowly.
The key: try to think rationally
When people are in love, they are not able to think rationally and this is the dangerous part. I know it’s hard, but try your best to think rationally. Ignore your feelings and your heart for a second and try to just use your brain for once. Deep inside you know that this isn’t right, and you’re the only person who could stop it.
Accept the fact that it isn’t love
It isn’t loved. Even if people do it in the name of love, there is no such a thing in love. When you’re in love you want someone you love to be happy. YES, having a relationship is not easy, there will be so many obstacles and different arguments – but being abusive is not a part of it. Don’t doubt it. Don’t think that it’s normal. Don’t be afraid that you couldn’t find anyone else that will love you. Because this isn’t loved and there will be someone out there who will show you what’s the real meaning of love, and this person is just not the one.
Disconnect all connections with this person
This could be the hardest part, but you have to disconnect all connections with this person. Cut it off. Make it clear that it’s over, even if your heart isn’t ready. Your heart will heal in time. I know it’s hard but I promise you, things will get better in time and when your heart is ready to move on, it feels so free that you will be the happiest person you’ll ever be. It has to be over now and remember that you’re in charge, you’re the only person who could end this. Before it’s too late and going too far, do it while you still can.
“It’s time to walk away and set your soul free.”
“It’s time to walk away when you’re not appreciated for who you are. You deserve to be respected.”