It’s easy for us to feel numb towards everything, especially when we are in between period or some people call it hangover period. Emotional numbness is dangerous because it could lead into depression. I’m just going to be honest, I don’t know why I have been feeling numb lately. Everything in my life is going okay, but I don’t know why I don’t feel really ‘happy’ or really ‘sad’ about anything or everything. I guess life just become a little bit predictable and I lost that excitement. Step by step I have overcome it, and there are certain things that I have done which is very helpful that I want to share it with you guys. I also realised that I’m not the only one who’s been feeling like this lately, therefore I have decided to write a blog post about how to overcome emotional numbness.
Take off your mask
When we feel numb, we don’t feel anything and we tend to fake everything. When people ask whether we’re okay or not, we will say that we are okay when we are not (not knowing whether we’re okay or not means that we’re not okay). It is difficult to open up to someone, especially if you have been hurt before. But it is important to take off your mask once in a while. Not everyone can be trusted, but not everyone can’t be trusted. There are certain people that you can trust. If you find it difficult to trust anyone, you don’t have to take off your mask in front of others. But take off your mask in front of yourself. When we get used to faking everything to everyone, sometimes we don’t realise that we fake it to ourselves too, and this is dangerous. We have to be honest with ourselves, about what actually is happening or why we feel the way we feel, what makes us feel numb and why we don’t know the reasons of this emotional numbness. It’s okay if you can’t find the answer, but we need to be honest with ourselves and let ourselves know what we’re going through.
Find an Inspiration
Finding an inspiration is crucial to overcome emotional numbness. When you feel numb, it is easy to slip in and feel like your life don’t have a purpose anymore. With an inspiration, you could try to build your life purpose again step by step. It is not easy and sometimes it takes a while to be inspired again when you feel numb, but you will get there. Just keep looking for it. You don’t have to travel the world to find an inspiration, you could just use your laptop and find inspirations from tumblr or pinterest or other things that excite you. For me, I like to look at others bloggers website or look at some websites of big companies, organisations and firms I want to work with in the future. It gives me motivations to continue doing what I am doing and help me to remind myself that I am not alone (in the case of others bloggers website) and I have a goal in the near future (in the case of big companies, organisations and firms website).
Turn off social media
We live in the world where everyone is using social media almost twelve hours a day (which is a lot). Social media sometimes affect our mental health in a negative way. There are too much pressure there. It is very easy to compared ourselves to others on social media. I’m just going to be honest you guys, sometimes I feel like I’m not good enough because there are so many others bloggers and influencers out there that have good quality of their posts or their accounts are just amazing. It’s easy to slip in and to feel insecure, which could lead into emotional numbness. Sometimes I feel numb when I get to the point where I say ‘Okay, they are much more better than me, and there is nothing I can do about it’. That acceptance of me being not good enough for social media (which is wrong) makes me feel numb towards social media, my platform, and even to my life. I realised that the only way to stop this nonsense is to turn off social media and live my life without it for a while. I turned off social media (literally off everything) for about 3 days, and once I did it for a week. It helps a lot, and it makes me realise how stupid I was for thinking that way. If you have experienced this, turn off your social media after reading this blog post. It is the first step for you to overcome this nonsense, because let me tell you, there is only one you in this world and that is your power!
Do something you are passionate about
When you feel numb sometimes it’s because you feel bored of your life. Like, there is no excitement, things are not bad but not good either. It’s normal, stable, and predictable. To overcome this numbness you need to give colour to your life again and the best way to do it is to do something you are passionate about. Find something you really enjoy doing, take one day off work then use that to do something you love. This could be many things and each of you have different things you’re passionate about. It could be something with arts, drawing, painting, playing a piano or guitar or violin, dancing, ballet, watching a theatre or opera. It could be something with sports, basketball, badminton, run a marathon, football, watching a match or play it with your friends or anyone. It could be writing, baking a cake or cupcakes, reading, travelling, riding a horse, hiking in a mountain on your own. It could be many things. There are so many things in this world we can do, there are so many options for it, we just need to find one thing that we passionate about and do it with love.
Listen to yourself
It’s important to listen to yourself. Don’t listen to others, listen to you, because in the end, this is your life and you are the author of your life. Yes, other people opinions matters sometimes, but not everyone opinions are valid to you. Most importantly, at this stage of your life when you feel emotional numbness, listening to others opinions about certain situations you are going through or as simple as their opinions on your life will not help you. Instead, this will only make you feel more confused which will make you feel even more numbness. In the before I have mentioned about turning off social media, one of the main purposed of this is for you to be with yourself only or with people that you trust. Social media sometimes could be too much for our mental health, the expectation they have over there could give so much pressure to us that will make us compared our life to people in social media which lead to us to feel numb to our life. Make quality time with you, listen to your heart and soul, listen to yourself. Because in the end of the day, deep down our hearts we all know the answers of our questions.
“Promise me you’ll always remember: You’re braver than you believe, and stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think.”
– Christopher Robin to Pooh, A.A. Milne –