‘be impeccable with your word’

Have you heard of ‘The Four Agreements’? Most people that are into spiritual beliefs, or people that are generally in their twenties, have heard about this book. The Four Agreements is a book written by Don Miguel Ruiz about a practical guide to personal freedom. The book teaches us how to be more peaceful in our lives and help us to think outside the box. So why the book is very popular and what makes it different from other spirituals or self-help books? Well, the answer is because the book pointed out directly what so often caused us to feel stressed, anxious, depressed, desperate, confused, upset, angry, and other negative feelings that we feel on our day to day life. With only understanding and practicing these four agreements, we will have better freedom in life.

#First Agreement

The first agreement is to ‘be impeccable with your word’. Meaning that we need to be careful with what we say, and at the same time, be gentle with it. We might not realize this but often words are very powerful that it could kill someone. Being impeccable with our words would help us to not hurting other people with our words, and not hurting ourselves as well. When we speak with integrity, we will respect each other more and ourselves more.

#Second Agreement

The second agreement is to not take personally. Often people say something or do things that hurt us or disappoint us. We, then, get affected by it and started to suffer. Sometimes we do not realize that what others do or say has nothing to do with us. When you can understand and practice this, you will become immune to other people words and actions. With this, you will not be a victim of needless suffering. This will save you from so much unnecessary pain and suffer.

#Third Agreement

The third agreement is to not make assumptions. Sometimes we jump into our assumptions so easily because it is just easier to assume than to communicate. Communication is very important in human interactions, yet, so many of us have communications issues, and unable to communicate with each other clearly. This often caused so many unnecessary issues, such as misunderstanding, sadness, and drama. If we can practice this agreement better, we will be able to transform our lives.

#Fourth Agreement

The fourth agreement is to always do your best. In life sometimes we fail, and it is normal, failure is a part of life after all. But when we do our best no matter what the results are, we never actually fail. We will only truly fail if we do not try our best. Our best also changes in circumstances, our best is not the same when we are healthy with when we are sick. Our best is not one statist thing, instead, our best is dynamist, depending on our situation. So we just need to simply do the best we can from our circumstances. When we do this, we will save ourselves from self-judgment, self-abuse, and regret.

From short discussions on the four agreement above, it appears very clear that if we can understand and practice these agreements, it will transform our life. We will no longer create unnecessary drama that caused suffering and pain, we will save ourselves from judging one another, including ourselves. Overall, our life will become better because of the mindset we have. And in the end, this is why the four agreements work.